My approach to feedback is somewhat 50/50. Either, I take it with a grain of salt or I attempt to avoid it at all costs. I generally accept criticism from people I know and trust, such as friends and family. However, I tend to be much more hesitant when it comes to feedback from anyone outside of that circle. From the perspective of a student, I never really enjoyed sharing my work for others to see unless it was complete and to my liking. Allowing others to catch a glimpse of something that I'm working on makes me slightly uneasy because my subconscious has come to believe that feedback equals judgement. I think it's time that I change my mindset.
The article, "Silence the Critical Voices in Your Head" by Sabina Nawaz analyses how a person deals with positive and negative feedback. The article mentions how a vice president of a tech company received a lot of positive feedback from his coworkers but he mainly focused on the few negative criticisms. This is something that I can definitely relate to. It's so unfortunate that our minds are wired to let the negative overpower the positive. The article also includes four steps to help push the negativity aside; look for the positive, hear the positive, understand the positive and believe the positive. This is much easier said than done but with repetition, our minds will begin to instinctively pay more attention to the positive feedback rather than dwelling on the negatives.
"Why It's So Hard to Hear Negative Feedback" written by Tim Herrera outlines a person's psychological response to negative feedback and how you can "retrain your brain to actively seek out that feedback." I naturally become anxious and uneasy when facing negative feedback because there's always a part of me that believes that I'm being judged. The article states that, whether you are giving or receiving the criticism, we must believe that it is being done honestly and with good intent. Accepting negative feedback is not that simple but I have to start viewing it as something that can help me improve and do better.
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